#bc they've become different ppl. but there's some things that never changed

[ineed-to-sleep]

I need more info about Cyberpunk Vince 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

My boy?? The most beautiful boy in the whole entire universe??? My current favorite subject???? Why ofc I'll be happy to oblige!! The lore is a bit loose for now bc I'm not super knowledgeable about cp2077 lore, but this is what I have so far:

(Also more pictures bc I can never get enough of him)

he came from humble beginnings, his father died early when he was a kid and he and his mother lived in heywood for a good portion of his childhood(canonically corpo v grew up in charter hill but also idc <3 that's not vince he's not rich kid material)

his mom sunk herself into debt to pay for his tuition at Arasaka Academy. That's one of the reasons why he never quit, despite the pressure really weighing down on him and causing him to develop depression and anxiety as a teen. Working for Arasaka did help him pay off the debt, but he could never find the proper time for therapy, and as a result he's. Well. Traumatized dbdjdjkd he's anxious, highly demanding of himself and has a warped sense of self esteem(ie "I am only good for something as long as I'm good at my job")

he's also quite blunt bc of the convivence with other corpo types. He's nice, but he just talks Like That. Comes off as a bit of an asshole at first but as the story progresses ppl realize he's actually very sweet and mindful, and lives and dies by his principles. He actually softens up a Lot after being kicked out of Arasaka, slowly getting out of the corporate mindset and going back to his old self. Very likely to treat people with compassion and kindness and offer them a shoulder to cry on when they need it

he still comes off a bit blunt tho djjdkckckck I attribute most of this to the voice acting But it's fine. It makes for a fun character trait cjjckckck

lowkey superstitious. He's not religious but likes to listen to Misty talk about spiritual stuff and starts kinda believing in some of it. Really enjoys her tarot readings. Lowkey starts saying shit like "well you see this is because I'm a virgo"(he's joking ofc. Or is he)

stealth hackerman sort of guy. I've nuked many a room full of enemies without being seen a single time while playing as him <3

That's mostly what I have for now xjskkckc will probably continue building him up as I play more of the game c:

[namtanlovesfilm]

I don’t know why I’m telling you this probably because you’re the only person I know who still remembers about the whole mew and art thing and since then I’m not the biggest fan of mew never was really. Now since he’s dating Tul and now the proposal the engagement… I’m happy for them if they’re happy but it feels like I can’t move on what mew did to art and that’s why I can’t really be happy for them… it’s very difficult and ppl somehow forgot what happened while I’m here stuck with this thought. I’m so sorry for ranting but I’ve been following you for a very long time and that’s why I know that you know about the whole situation. I don’t know if I’m just stuck in the past or… like I also don’t get the ppl here who loves ohm pawat that much since his past got revealed. It feels like they forget what they did or I’m just not accepting enough that ppl can change you know… anyway have a nice day and sorry for the rant

hi, no worries about the rant! I feel the exact same way, I will never ever like mew in my lifetime bc of the mewart situation & the way it was handled by everyone involved as well as the public. I didn't know about the mewtul engagement but tbh I feel like him dating a genuinely nice person like tul doesn't change anything in my eyes. same thing for ohm, I also can't see him the same after the whole controversy. however, I've known for a long time that cancel culture doesn't do anything & that people (especially men) in power will almost always be corrupt or fucked up in some way. that's why I barely stan anyone nowadays. I do believe that people can change, and I believe growth is something that should always be encouraged & celebrated. however, when we are talking about emotional abuse & SA... this isn't something that you can really grow out of. you can never do it again and become a "better person", however the victims have to live with what you've done for the rest of their lives. if the people who know the celebrity in question in real life see them in a different light & can attest they've changed for the better, I, as someone online who just follows from afar... cannot. that's why I would say that you're not overthinking this, anon. seeing someone who's caused genuine pain be celebrated & adored as if they didn't do anything IS hurtful. and no matter what, you're entitled to your feelings about someone as long as you don't cross into harassment or bullying. there's some actors who (so far) have had zero controversy that I still dislike for random reasons, and that's okay. what I would recommend is detaching yourself from the situation & blocking posts about them when you see them. just bc the bl fandom as a whole is celebratory towards them & produces content for them doesn't mean you need to see it or interact with it. protect your peace. let go of things that you cannot change. the world is unfair & will always protect mediocre and harmful rich men. it sucks but it's true. what you CAN control is the content you see & interact with, and the energy that you put into the world. surround yourself with actors who don't make you feel bad like mew does. have a nice day :)

xxx

[gaykey]

kibum confuses me I used to adoreee him he's been my second favourite for years which sounds a bit bad but it's bc I like all the members sm lmao but after the mcdnlds endorsement I just stopped, me and I've seen others as well say that they've been bad weird vibes since last year or attribute something being different since he got on all those variety shows, like I feel like there was a change but I have the worst concept of time to begin with so I can't even point out when things started to change, you're more of a locket than I am so maybe you could probably pinpoint and word it better than me

he's said and done some stupid things before and maybe it's me being a bit delusional but I really didn't expect all of whats he's doing lately from him at all and yes we shouldn't put our morals on a stranger, but I dont think expecting a person to have a moral backbone is asking for much, but there are a bunch of rich ppl/celebs who are zios (this is my attempt to censor bc I'm scared of attracting more freaks somehow to your inbox lol) so maybe I shouldn't have been so surprised

yeah, there are a ton of people saying he's been off, lr had bad vines for a while now but, honestly, until his colourist comments last year, i hadn't noticed anything off.

but i guess since then, looking back, like i've said in a few other asks, he comes across as just going for anything that'll bring him in a decent check? more, superficial i guess? he'd always seemed so genuine before.

again, this could just be because of recent events and how i view him now but???

anon, i in no way expected it. me a year ago would have flat out refused the idea. kibum doing something so problemtic that i'd unstan? NEVER.

mmm very true. assuming people have at least decent morals shouldn't be such a crazy concept, but histoey, and currebt events have proven that to be false tenfold.

the rich a famous are just, corrupt. that's what money and fame does to you. it doesn't take much for them to become completely removed and out of touch. and then their influenced by other rich and evil people and that's it.

[golbrocklovely]

I'm genuinely curious, what makes Colby different from Sam? Honestly, like Sam is seen with a few girls and everyone thinks it’s great he’s “getting back out there” but Colby just says hi to a girl and it’s like WWIII “why is he dating her?” “We must stalk her and send her death threats at once!” Like I’m so baffled at how differently they’re treated for basically doing the same thing.

i've gone on tangents about this before in the past, but no one likes when i do that bc it points out something that either a) ppl don't want to agree with or b) they don't want to admit it's true.

reality is, while colby might be loved more in this fandom, ppl don't respect him like they do sam. sure, sam gets his fair share of hate, but it will never be comparable to what colby gets. and i genuinely mean that.

and if anyone comes at me, would you like me to show you the actual list i've made up of all the shit colby has been hated on for, and it doesn't even scratch the surface? i mean, you want proof of my belief, take the fact he got a death threat so bad (that all of us fans saw) that he left twitter for like a week and then completely changed the way he goes on that site now forever (aka keeps it at an arm's length).

ppl respect sam. they don't respect colby. which is why colby's love life becomes a warzone while sam can go around and have multiple partners in the span of a couple months, and it's not a big deal. the most heat sam got this year bc of his love life was only bc he took his current girl to the same spot he took kat on their first date. and that was it.

also, colby has been single longer, so more fans over the years legit believe that they have a chance with him. fanfics have rotted some of these ppl's brains and makes them think they have a choice in the matter when they don't. fans think they have an ownership over colby, which is why they lash out when he does something they don't agree with or want him to do.

and it's not even the hate these girls get that's alarming (i mean it is, don't get me wrong). it's the weird obsession that follows it. it's the fans that stalk these girls and knows their every move and becomes fans of said girls (who 9 times out of 10 are just random insta models that don't do anything). there are fans in this fandom that now legit talk to ms singer like they've been a fan of her for years, filling her in on colby's every doing in comments and livestreams.

if yall could just... stop being weird, that would be great.

[babsaros]

"indie ttrpg/anti-dnd twitter just does not believe in playing or exploring morally questionable characters and actions" is such an abjectly piss-poor disconnected-from-reality take. it belies a complete ignorance of a great many indie TTRPGs that are not D&D. (D&D itself is frankly not designed for "playing or exploring morally questionable characters and actions"; just look at the fantasy racist alignment system still being jammed in there.)

i really shouldn't dignify this with a response, because i made that post 9 months ago, vaguely venting about an article someone i follow on twitter shared.

however, you've only taken the very first sentence, ignoring that most of the post is about a specific spell in 5e, and how just because it *can* be used in harmful ways doesn't mean it only exists to torture poor helpless npcs, and it also doesn't mean the character/player who chooses to do so is automatically irredeemably evil, because playing morally gray or even straight up evil characters can be interesting and *fun*, not just for the person playing them but for everyone at the table *WHEN DONE RIGHT AND RESPECTFULLY*, hence my bit about the "murder hobo" trope being generally frowned upon. maybe i should have worded my original post differently, but like. dude its from 9 months ago, it got 0 notes, and i never intended for it to become a conversation. i was venting about a specific stupid take i saw on twitter, and then immediately forgot about lol. i enjoy many indie ttrpgs, and also agree with many criticisms of dnd AND *moreso* with wizards of the coast. I think anti-dnd spaces, the ppl who denounce dnd as a system entirely, would be better off trying to convince ppl of the criticisms they have for wizards of the coast as a company, instead of trying to come up with criticisms for a game they've maybe never played, or played a handful of times with a shitty group that made them hate it. I think most of the criticisms i've seen of dnd mechanics (not talking about race stuff) rarely makes sense or is something i've actually experienced in my own play.

Like, you say "D&D itself is frankly not designed for 'playing or exploring morally questionable characters and actions'", but fail to provide a specific example of how that's true besides "well, wizards of the cost wrote some pretty racist shit in there". yeah man they did! i agree with that! but that doesn't mean the system just doesn't support playing an 'evil' orc or whatever and exploring the character arcs that could exist there. like. my original post was complaining about someone specifically saying that 'actually dnd is inherently evil bc you can do some morally bankrupt stuff with certain spells', and now YOU are coming into my house to say 'actually dnd as a system doesn't support playing evil characters or doing evil things at all'. like do you see why i'm saying the criticisms never line up in consistency or as effective counter-arguments to my own personal play experience, where i myself have played, and played with, plenty of asshole, evil, morally gray, 'criminal', corrupt, cruel characters. When everyone at the table enjoys playing around that dynamic, it can be fun and interesting!

my tags on that post to sum it up are: #i think dnd has just as much potential for being cruel as a lot of other systems#its just a matter of who you play with and what you play#and i dont think there's anything wrong with playing 'bad guys'

like i don't even say dnd is the best system for what i want. i *say* i have criticisms and don't even like it that much. i'm sure there *are* some really fun, well-written indie-ttrpgs out there that encourage rolling up some evil characters. i've even explored writing my own, one specifically built around rolling up miserable assholes and exploring the bad things they do and become, and the ways ppl like that can be pulled back from the brink, that ppl aren't just good or bad and they can change.

you've just twisted your own panties about this, man.

like, feel free to respond, i legitimately have nothing better to do. you opened up this conversation by saying i had a "piss-poor detached from reality" take about a post that was really just a vague vent but *did* try to be respectful and explain where i was coming from, but you also seemingly ignored everything after the first sentence, so idk its difficult to judge how much free time you might have on your hands, but i'm guessing you started this the way you started it bc you do want the attention.

[storybookwolf]

I actually really liked Jonathan and Nancy’s fight subplot at first, I thought their car fight scene was so well written and acted, but the conclusion of it was a big let down. Not surprising that these episodes were written by different ppl. The Sauna Test (fight) was written by a woman, Kate Trefry- who also wrote Fear Street part 3- and The Flayed (resolution) was written by a guy, Paul Dichter. The car fight scene did a great job imo of giving them each realistic reasons to be upset and lash out without painting either as ‘the bad guy’. But the resolution in the next episode felt completely diff, like they didn’t put much effort into letting the experience let them both grow as characters, but just thought “Nancy is woman, woman is always right, so Nancy is right” which is not accurate and is not what feminism is even abt. The apology didn’t even make sense based on what the fight was. It was abt Jonathan being upset that Nancy cost him his job, and Nancy didn’t think it was a big deal bc their bosses were sexist assholes, but Jonathan did bc when you’re poor you can’t afford to lose a job over shitty treatment. It wasn’t abt Jonathan doubting Nancy at all, but they made him apologize for it, and instead of having Nancy apologize for costing him his job she only apologized for accusing him of being sexist, not for costing him the job.

One of the best things abt Nancy is that her character isn’t perfect, you don’t see a lot of flawed woman in shows like ST. Even Natalia agreed that’s why she loved playing Nancy so much. But there’s a diff between having a character who is flawed and acknowledges it and apologizes for it and actively works on becoming a better person, and a character who is flawed but refuses to acknowledge it and whose mistreatment of others, even if it is minor, is ignored, and as a result never truly can grow as a character. Nancy hasn’t changed much from season 2-3 and obvs it’s bc the Duffers don’t want to take the time away from Steve to further develop her, but it’s like they don’t even know what else to do. Season 1 and some of 2 was abt her transitioning from an innocent nerdy high school cliché to a badass monster-fighter who goes after the things she wants, but she didn’t transition at all in season 3. You’d think they’d try to show how her being in a relationship with someone she truly loves would change her and make her better, but they didn’t. Hopefully being in a long dist relationship this season will give her some time and space to finally develop.

Excellent points! Interesting about the argument and the apology being written by different people -- makes you wonder how much of the story detail is plotted out and how much happens on the fly.

Definitely agree about Nancy's character development stalling in s3. My interpretation is that s1 was a homage to late 70s/early 80s movies like Close Encounters of the Third Kind where scifi stories were told on a very human scale, with character development and social commentary (as is s2, perhaps to a lesser extent). But by s3 they've moved into Big Dumb Fun Summer Blockbuster territory, and there's less scope for those more nuanced human stories. Interested to see what s4 brings, and if they figure out what to do with Nancy!

[readingontheroof]

(1) Hi so I hope I'm somehow able to word this properly and not be an awful person (I'm sorry my emotions are still running kinda haywire). So yesterday my datemate told me that they are aromantic and they've known for about two months now and they didn't tell me earlier (even tho they hate lying/keeping secrets) bc they still love me (but not romantically of course) and they were worried I was going to cut ties with them completely in order to get over them and not want them in my life

anymore. Which I don't think I would have done, but given my past experience and personality, I think it was a reasonable thing to think. So after they told me that, I cried a lot and we talked about it some more, but it wasn't really a proper discussion since I was crying so hard. (I don't know if this helps but I'm an infj and my datemate (?) is an intj. I'm also asexual and they're pansexual. Sorry to dump this on you, I just think you're insightful and give good advice). We've been dating for 10 months now so it's a little bit hard finding this out after we've already been together for a while. While I understand why they waited 2 months to tell me (didn't want to hurt me, we were already dating, didn't want to permanently lose me) I'm still mad and wish they had told me earlier. I'm very future-oriented and I plan things out so far in advance, I was already imagining a future with them and was so happy and excited about it. I can change this image of coursebut it feels so sudden and it's like everything's been turned upside down. Last night I was overwhelmingly sad, and today I'm still sad but also angry. Maybe it wouldn't have but that's 2 months I could've spent stopping myself from getting attached to this future image. We talked about it together multiple times: what we each want, where we want to live, what kind of cats and dogs we want to own together. I know we can still live together, & I'd really really love that, it's just that someof the certainty of the future has been ripped away and it was really comforting and wonderful to think about. I really love them a lot and I can't think of anyone else I'd rather own cats with. Last night they said they'd still like to be in a romantic relationship with me and date me and continue doing everything else we've already been doing, but they don't want to be involved with any of those romantic rituals like getting married, etc. All I want right now is to continue our currentrelationship, especially since they want to and they really want to be in my future. It's just that I'm so attached to the idea of romantic love and marriage (it's so stupid though) and I don't know how to get away from that & I KNOW that no matter how much I'd like to continue this current relationship, I'm going to eventually want to get married and I don't want to regret anything. The ideal future would be for me to live with both them and someone else I'm married to in the same housebut all I can think about is how there's no way that'll ever work bc then that's three people's lives, jobs, wants and needs we'd have to coordinate in order to live in the same place and area. The probability of it working out is so unlikely & I don't know if I'd be even be able to find someone else to date who'd be willing to do that. I'm thinking the best option is for me to break off my current relationship with my datemate and do something more akin to a qpr, I just hate how vague anduncertain the future seems now. In the midst of this, I'm still mourning our past relationship (it was also my first romantic relationship). I really hope I didn't say anything to hurt their feelings last night but I tried to make as clear as possible that it's okay for them to be aromantic, I'm just upset about the changes to my vision of the future. Like if only I could get rid of this attachment to the idea of marriage and romantic love, and all that sappy stuff, then we could still continue our current relationship into the future the way it's been. I've just been so happy since (and before) we started dating at college and it's kinda of just a shocker, like I was too optimistic. I did get some warning from my instincts which I probably should've listened to (I hesitated before asking them out bc I thought they might've been aro but they said yes & later when they talked about possibly being polyarmorous I freaked out bc I went on a forum & lots of ppl had similarviews on platonic and romantic love and in poly and aro communities and I was worried that they were aro and I brought it up to them and at the time, they thought they were poly so they reassured me BUT two weeks after the convo realized they were aro. Fucking weirdass ni. Should've listened to it. In addition to this, I have become very attached to cuddling and physical intimacy and I don't want that to stop...but at the same time I'm worried I'm never going to stop liking them if I don'tstop the physical intimacy. Last night they said they'd be fine with whatever I wanted to do (become friends, continue the romantic relationship, or continue the romantic relationship and affection until I find someone else I want to date). Honestly the third option sounds the most appealing but I'm just worried I'm gonna be trapped in a limbo and that my new ideal future option is too unlikely to happen & by continuing the physical and emotional intimacy I'm keeping myself from formingother bonds with other people. I don't want to cut them out of my life, bc even if we ended the romantic relationship, we have become so close with each other, and I enjoy spending time with them more than anyone else at college right now. I know that they really value their relationship with me as well, since they said that they trust me more than anyone else and they have a lot of difficulty opening up to people. I'm not quite sure what kind of advice I'm asking for, maybe I just neededto write all of this out. I'm sorry this was so long, I just have so many emotions. I guess I'm wondering what your opinion is, & if you have any advice on dealing with overcoming the loss of a former vision of the future & replacing it with another one (the biggest question I guess). Also maybe any advice on whether or not you think it's something that would work & if I'm still being too optimistic. Do you have any tips on how to go about forming a qpr? Thank you so much! Feel free toanswer whenever you happen to have any time!! Also if any of these messages get lost or eaten by tumblr, let me know & I can resend them (I've saved them). I'm sorry this was so long! Thank you 

Honestly I'm starting to feel a little bit better after writing all of that out and thinking about other possible future options (happy ones of course) and it's really nice. Thank you for your blog & all you do for the mbti community. Mbti always makes me feel better when I'm feeling bad and reading your thoughts and insights on it is always fun. I guess it's sorta distraction but it's still nice and isn't really hurting me so thanks 

Okay so first i wanna establish i’m likely aro myself so i dont really have a great understanding of the differences between romantic and platonic feelings.

So, one thing I’m confused about is how the relationship would go if you proceeded like the INTJ suggested, (the same, but w no “rituals”). What exactly about the relationship right now would be romantic to you that wouldn’t continue, besides stuff like marriage? Bc I think the biggest disconnect wouldn’t be in not doing x y z, but in a difference in how you view the relationship. If they view the relationship somehow differently bc they are aro, what are those differences? Bc obviously it isn’t a sexual relationship but you were doing things that would be “romantic” rather than “friendly.” I think it would be helpful to try to figure out what has changed, really at all. Bc if you are viewing the relationship very differently from each other, I can see how that could cause pain.

It definitely seems like you want something more from the relationship than they do, and I do think that if you continued the relationship with you sort of pretending it’s a romantic relationship and them sort of pretending it’s a friendship, with you knowing it will never fulfill those expectations you had, it will feel like something is missing and bitterness/pain/disconnection might come from that. I think if you decided to continue the physical intimacy but say you’re friends, that’s what you’re going to end up doing. I think you shouldn’t cut them off or avoid them, it just wouldn’t be logical. I think you should keep your friendship, but try not to do anything you would see as romantic. Maybe a little space right now would be really good, for you especially, to get your head around it without any pressure or guilt. However, I do think that given time (esp given your types), you could change the nature of the relationship and move on in a way, especially bc it is your first relationship. I think you could be best friends, and you could end up with a different romantic partner that you have a healthy, fulfilling relationship with.

I do think you should trust your instincts, if they’re telling you anything at this point. It seems like doing so would put you in a place that feels natural.

I don’t have any tips on how to form a qpr bc i’ve never had one and don’t really have a want for one, but I do advise you to be careful, bc boy have a I seen people try to have a qpr with someone they clearly have a crush on and it isn’t fun for either of the people involved.

No prob man, I rlly hope it works out for you. I do think the venting helped you organize everything! I’m glad you like my blog, thanks :)!

[golbrocklovely]

the more and more mainstream the boys get the more and more gross comments about their appearances they will get. stan twitter is known for that and i’ve already seen some of it going down

seriously they’re all jobless nobodys who will bodyshame and degrade whoever is popular atm just to get under peoples skin because they love the attention and interactions they get when they do it

i love snc and i always had a fear of this happening back when i first started watching them in 2018 because i knew they were going to blow up even back then when they weren’t doing ghost things

that's true.

i've always felt that they were gonna blow up and become big as well. they've always been ahead of the curve, knowing when the trends are changing and whatnot. and they have never been afraid of taking risks. and that's why they've been successful for so long.

and as time has gone on, comments about them (especially colby let's be fr) have gotten worst.

i think ppl have this idea in their head that they're supposed to look the same as they did back when they were in their earlier 20s. like the xplr era. and bc the boys no longer fit that mold, and change, ppl get upset. or think that bc one of them looks a little different than before, they're allowed to comment on this.

it's one thing to be concerned, bc i know there are times the boys look run downed and tired. that's different. but commenting on colby's acne or his face being puffy…. that's just rude and extremely unnecessary.

i could rant about this but i won't. but cards on the table, being completely honest: this fandom has a tendency to be obnoxiously mean towards colby. sam gets hate, i'm not denying that. but the hate colby gets is on a whole other level. especially about his appearance. that's all i'll say for now.